The PF Women Team at our Annual Team Retreat ~ 2018 Today on Seth Godin's blog, he said: It's tempting to decide to make a profit first, then invest in training, people, facilities, promotion, customer service and most of all, doing important work. In general, though, it goes the other way. Yes, it does. If you are waiting to make a profit before you do these things, in my experience you're not going to make a profit. So many organizations, ministries and churches are struggling with financial issues. I know your pain. As anyone who follows our story knows, our ministry was in a ton of debt four years ago when I came on as director. Since that time, we've gotten out of debt and turned a profit every year. God has done amazing things through out team, for which we give Him the glory! I find that what Seth is saying here is absolutely true, with one disclaimer. For Christian leaders, spiritual disciplines must always be first. Before we started i...
Years ago when Larry and I lost our first baby to a
miscarriage, I had some of the worst experiences with attempts to comfort gone awry. People said things that
compounded the pain, rather than helping. A lady in the church walked up behind me at the altar, put an arm around me to pray and before she
did said, “Honey, just count your blessings. The baby was probably retarded…”
(No, I am not kidding! She really said that.)
Another lady in the church said,
“Well, look on the bright side…you’ll have more kids eventually.”
First, how
did she know for a fact that I would be able to have children in the future?
And second, would having all of these supposed future children diminish the
loss of our first baby? No, it actually never did. I still think of our first
little one who we never got to hold, and our three children often reference
looking forward to meeting their sibling one day in heaven.
People all around us experience painful losses. How can we
make it better for them and not increase the impact of their pain? Today I offer up 9 things to be careful not
say to someone who is hurting. It may not be a death they have experienced, but
a loss of a job, or financial investment. They may have received a scary
diagnosis at the doctor. Or maybe they’re just having an all around bad day.
9 Things to NOT to say:
- It could be worse…
- Everything happens for a reason.
- All things work together for good…
- That’s nothing! So and so and so is dealing with _______________.”
- “You think you have it bad? Right now I’m going through_______________.”
- Look on the bright side!
- Are you looking at the glass half full or half empty?
- God is good all the time! And all the time God is good!
- Is this really such a big deal?
What are things you don’t want to
hear when you’re hurting?
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